7.4: Family and Friends
Conflict between spiritual and material visions is nothing new: Brahma and the Four Kumaras, Daksa and Narada Muni, Buddha, Jesus. Such difficulties arise in all cultures and still today, even in Christianity. Still, when visiting parents and relatives or even old friends, devotees should bear certain things in mind. Here is a list of important reminders and tips.
- We must always respect our parents and other family members.
- Devotees can speak with them about other things too (not exclusively about Krishna).
- The relationship shouldn’t be disturbed by our involvement in Krishna consiousness. It should continue just as before.
- When Srila Prabhupada was staying at the Aggrawals, for example, and people would smoke, he would tell them not to worry about him; he didn’t mind. He didn’t create any trouble for anyone. He cooked for them. He shared in their joy (the baby standing). He could speak about mundane things like the vacuum cleaner. He was always very friendly and pleasant to be with.
- We can be patient because we will continue to be their kids for the rest of their lives.
- Try to understand how they may view our acceptance of a devotional life.
- Be careful of the tendency to zealously share your enthusiasm for Krishna Consciousness with your family or friends. It may not always be appropiate.
- Ease your parents into it gradually. Don’t load everything onto them at once.
- Keep regularly in touch with the parents.